It's All About Balance

          One of the most important aspects to everything in life is balance. Just like anything else, there are tons of things in a relationship that need good balance. One of the most important being the balance between your significant other, and your friends. Sadly, one of the first things to be left behind when someone gets into a serious commitment is their friends. No more game nights with the boys, the end of girl’s night out, it all just, slowly disappears. Eventually, that will lead to pushing your friends away; whether you’re in a relationship or not, having no friends will make you feel lonely. I know people will argue that they are so in love they want to spend every moment with their partner, but didn’t your mom ever tell you that distance makes the heart grow fonder? Personally, if I spend every day and night with my boyfriend, I'm gonna get a little sick of them; not to mention the rut you’ll fall into. It’s fine to be happy when you’re around someone, but doesn’t it make those moments more special when it’s not every day? I don’t know who decided to come up with the thought that you have to do everything with your boyfriend or girlfriend, but they're a moron.

                It’s especially sad to me when this happens to young people in relationships. And I'm not just talking about high school; people forget that being in your 20’s still qualifies you as young. Don’t you want a youth? We have our entire lives (if we want) to be with someone; I don’t get why someone would waste the greatest years of their life curled up on the couch watching marathons. It hurts for me to see people I love and care about be so deep and wrapped up in these relationships that they don’t even know it’s happening to them. Now, don’t get me wrong, I'm not saying that you shouldn’t be in a relationship just because you’re young, all I'm saying is don’t let it take over your life. You’re allowed to go out with your friends or go on trips without your boyfriend, there isn’t a cardinal rule that you need to be attached to their hip at all times.  I just personally don’t understand why someone would want to be in a relationship that has made them change everything they once loved doing, or really, the person they once were.               

          The couples I have most respect for are the ones who aren’t dependent on each other. I admire relationships that don’t have to talk every five seconds; don’t need to spend every night together; ones that are strong on their own. I think it’s kind of pathetic when people are so obsessed with each other that it consumes their whole lives (and yeah, I'm judging the hell out of you, so sue me.) How is that even fun? I know a ton of people (or should I say knew) that are now swallowed up by a relationship. I'm not saying that it’s sad to have strong feelings for someone and enjoy someone's company; I just think it’s a little depressing that most people in their 20s treat their relationships as if they're in a marriage. You marry someone because they're who you want to grow old with, you don’t want to be with anyone else, and they make you feel complete. Welp, until you’re at that point, does it seem necessary to give up nights with your friends? Does it seem necessary to have to ask someone permission for everything you do? Even if you do think you’re going to be with this kid forever, then if you have the rest of your life with them, why would you throw away the best years right now? And if you don’t think you’re going to be with them in the long run, dare I ask why the hell you are wasting your fantastic youth for nothing?

                You don’t need to spend every weekend with your partner and you don’t need to spend every weekend with your friends, like I said, it’s all about balance. Find the happy medium. It’s not healthy to spend too much time with one person, especially when you do the same things every time you’re together. Keep things new and fresh. Make every moment you’re together exciting, but most importantly, keep your own life exciting. Do the things that you want to do. Because when you actually are married, and you’re serving your 25 to life sentence to your husband, your young life is over, no matter how you try and spin it, it’s done. And I love when people try and say “oh but were a fun couple!” no you’re not, trust me. But you know what, you’re married, you don’t need to be fun; THAT’S WHAT YOUR YOUTH IS FOR. My advice to all young couples: appreciate your young life, enjoy your friends and your freedom, because one day you’re going to wake up old, and you really are going to wish you lived your life to the fullest. Be grateful of your healthy life, don’t waste it. Boyfriend or not, I know I'm not going to give up the things that I want to do; if someone can keep up and wants to come along for the ride, that’s cool, but I'm not going to let someone take away the best years of my life.

Don't

Short and sweet. Here’s my list of don’ts when it comes to relationships.

                DON’T: Spend every day, night, or weekend together; give each other your own damn space. Talk to each other like your five years old; in public, at least, have respect for people around you, because we don’t want to hear that shit. Have your friends write text messages for you when you’re trying to get someone to like you; if you want someone to like you, then you sorrrtaa need to do all that yourself. Write all over each other’s walls; we get it, you’re in a relationship. Make out in public; I don’t know what you’re trying to do, but it’s just uncomfortable for everyone around you. Break up and get back together every month and make people listen to your bullshit reasons; if it’s going to be a habit, do what you will, but keep the annoyance between the two of you, this isn’t a three way relationship. Snoop through phones, emails, or Facebooks; not only do you look crazy, but you’re going to get yourself worked up over things that don’t matter. Speaking of; freak out when they become friends with someone of the opposite sex; it doesn’t mean they're hooking up, it’s just Facebook god damn it. Repeat dial; they got the other 10 calls, not answering for a reason. Smother; you’re only going to piss me off. “Coincidentally” be at the same bar as them; it’s not a coincidence when you stalked to figure out where they were going to be. Talk about your bedroom habits in front of your friends; no one cares. Lose sight of who you are; if you have to change to be with someone, then they probably aren’t the person you should be with. Tell your partner they can’t be friends with someone anymore. Get into the “let’s just watch a movie” rut; go on trips, go out with your friends, do anything social! Lie; the truth always comes out (trust me). Read into things; ask, don’t assume. Get into a fight just because they didn’t call you; there are reasons for these things, people do have other matters going on in their lives besides you. Talk every five seconds; what the hell do you people talk about all day anyway? Become dependent on a man to do everything for you. Get a pet together; guys you know you’re going to be the one walking that little rat she calls a dog, so just avoid it. Move in together; until you’re married of course, and even then, I still want my own place. Get too comfortable; there is no need to rip ass in front of your girlfriend, or boyfriend for that matter…talk about losing sexual attraction to someone. Get fat; that one I’ll never understand. Drag people into your problems; if you got yourself into the mess, get yourself out. Forget about your friends; who do you expect to be your bridesmaids when you’ve pushed everyone out of your life for this shmuck? EVER raise your voice at someone or lay a hand on them; there is not one thing in the world that could ever deserve that (not even cheating…asshole). Make shit up to get the sympathy vote; I never understood why girls think a guy is going to want to stay with you just because you tell him a bunch of depressing things in your life. Fight in public; it’s like watching two siblings fight, it’s awkward as fuck and really annoying. Be glued to each other; just because your dating doesn’t mean you always have to be standing or sitting next to each other, it’s okay to mingle, you’ll survive. Force it; not everyone’s meant to be together, if it’s over, it’s over, not a huge deal. Get all pissy because he wants to be with the guys tonight; seriously though, calm the f down. Be his mom; you’re job is to be his girlfriend, you don’t need to order him around. Make so many rules; didn’t you ever learn that people want what they can’t have?

          Most importantly: don’t ever forget what relationships are supposed to be about; you’re with someone because they make you happy and you enjoy spending time together. Making new memories with someone and continuing to enjoy life with someone by your side. When that turns into having constant fights with no meaning and losing all passion, it’s time to move on. Don’t waste your energy trying to convince yourself you’re supposed to be with someone. Relationships are a choice, if you’re not having fun, you shouldn’t be doing it.

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THOSE THREE LITTLE WORDS...

          My sisters seem to think that I am anti relationships and don’t believe in love. Well, I would like to clear that up. I do in fact believe in love and I have nothing against a good healthy relationship. I have a very big heart and I have a lot of love inside me. I love my family more than anything in the world and the love I have for my friends is overwhelming. And in case you forgot, I do have a love quote tattooed on me, that wasn’t just for the hell of it. Believe it or not, I do think relationships are wonderful. Sharing a bond with someone you care about; the happy feeling you get every time you see the person you have feelings for; I think all of that is amazing. I have experienced and seen relationships that are pathetic; and I have had and witnessed many that are a treat. My parents, for example, have a relationship that I hope to have one day. The way my dad looks at my mom is as if he's still a teenager in love; and the way my mom knows every little detail about my dad is amazing. This is the kind of love I appreciate; the love that is earned and spent a long time achieving. I feel that you know you are really meant to be with someone when your path to them is not a straight shot. My parents dated when they were younger, broke up, both got married to other people, got divorced, and then the two of them got back together and married. Now if that’s not meant to be, I don’t know what is. That’s the kind of fairytale I have respect for. Twenty eight beautiful years and four spectacular children later, they are more in love now than ever. Everything that’s meant to be will be. That’s the beauty with love; you don’t need to force it.

                Love is the most amazing gift we can give to someone. Just because it’s not something I like to toss around to anyone, doesn’t mean I don’t feel it. For me, I know when I finally tell someone I’m in love with them, it will mean a lot because I haven’t said it to every shmuck whose wiggled his way into my life. When I see people say “I love you” after two months of dating, it makes me sad. It’s just such a powerful emotion that should be saved for moments and people when you actually mean it. It is appropriate to have really strong feelings for someone when you first start dating; it’s new and exciting. But people really need to learn to distinguish lust from love; and also the difference of having love for someone and being in love. I know people who have been in relationships when they say they love the other person and blah blah blah, well flash forward to the break up and all of a sudden its “no I want in love with him; I had more of a friendship feeling toward him.” Hmmm, that’s funny, because when you too were using baby after every word, you were certainly singing a different tune. Perhaps if you waited an appropriate amount of time to jump to that conclusion, you never would have said it. Then they get in a new relationship and it’s like “oh no no no but this time I swear I really love him, it’s different.” Is it really now? Superb, congrats.

                Obviously we are going to love more than one person in our lifetime, I get that. I'm not saying you need to save those three little words for just one; I just wish people wouldn’t throw it around like its nothing. I dunno, perhaps wait more than a year until you say it? You’re not meant to be in love with everyone you date, the point of dating is to hopefully find the person you love. There doesn’t need to be a time limit on loving someone. Just because you have been together for over a year, doesn’t mean that you have to feel like you’re supposed to be in love someone. It takes a very long time to really know someone and appreciate them, I dated my ex in college for about a year and at the end, I realized that I was never going to love him; it just took a long time to understand that. It’s also easier to believe and appreciate the love between two people when it’s rare for someone. For example, I have someone very close to me, hands down the greatest guy I know with the biggest heart in the world. This guy doesn’t just date or have feelings for anyone; he is a very work oriented person and doesn’t spend his time picking up girls. Well, he met a girl 4 years ago at summer school and let me tell you, even just by the look in his eyes when he told me about her, I knew he was in love. Today, four years later, they are still happily together and very much head over heels. It’s wonderful for me to see because I know it’s real for him. He doesn’t get these feelings for just anyone, he doesn’t say those words to just anyone; when he says it, he means it. The whole part about love that is exciting is that it’s rare and unexpected.

                All I'm saying is to be a little more careful with whom you say those powerful little words too. Think of it like I am your mom giving you the sex talk when you were younger. Remember how she told you to save your virginity for someone special? Not to just throw your body around to anyone because sooner or later it won’t mean anything anymore? Well that’s how I feel about love. Personally, I think someone's heart is just a wee bit more valuable than sex. It’s simple math really, if you don’t want to get heartbroken, then don’t give anyone the power to do that. Pretend your love is a Chanel bag that you don’t want anyone else to get ahold of until you know they will treat it with the gentle respect it deserves.

Boys: You're Crazy Too

Fellas, answer this for me: why do you think that every time you’re hooking up with a girl, she wants something more? Not everyone wants to be in a relationship with you….kapeesh? I mean really though, self centered much? Girls need ass too. It seems as if you’re hooking up with a guy for more than a month, they start to think you’re hoping it turns into something. Well guys, you’re wrong. And to be perfectly honest, it’s a little creepy when you randomly send the whole “this is too much, I’m not looking for anything right now” text. Because welp, you were the only one whose head was even in that ball park. And if a girl ever said that, she would somehow be a psycho crazy lady. Doesn’t make sense. I’ll give it to you, a lot of girls are out on the prowl for a relationship and will lock down anything they can get, but that’s not the case for all of them. And not to be a bitch, but I think you should kind of get the point a relationship is not on the mind when a girl is only texting you on her walk home from the bars…just a thought, maybe? Yes, we know how to booty call too.

                I don’t know if guys are just super cocky or really dumb, but the majority of them seem to always think a girl has feelings for them. Well sorry bro, but don’t flatter yourself. I understand if a girl texts you all day every day how you could think she’s a stage 5 clinger, but if it’s just a constant late night hang out, then most likely it doesn’t mean much more than that to her either. You’re not that tight, sorry to say, so be easy with that thought. If you’re just over hooking up with the chick, then that’s cool, but the whole assumption of thinking girls always want a relationship is a liiiitttlllllee weird. And besides, even if a girl does text you every now and then during the day or wants to hang out other than after the bars, it is 2011; did you ever think that maybe your just a cool guy to hang out with, without her having feelings for you? It’s very possible for girls and guys to be friends and still not need a relationship. My best friend is a guy, love him more than anything, I don’t get why people think it’s so hard.

                But what apparently is hard once you’re in a relationship with a guy, keeping your privacy. Is it really necessary to snoop through someone’s text messages while they’re in the shower? Or creep all over your girlfriends Facebook to see who they're hanging out with? There is no need to peer over my shoulder as I'm texting, you can ask, I’ll tell you who it is. I dated a crazy guy in college who was the biggest snoop I've ever met in my life. One time I was in the bathroom getting ready for work and he went through my phone (which had a password by the way, so he's that lame that he figured out my password) and saw a text from a guy friend. He came storming in the bathroom, threw my phone down on the floor and said, “Who the fuck is this?!!” Well sir, if you would have calmly walked into the bathroom and said “hey, this is kind of weird, who is this?” I would have obviously still thought he was a nut job for going through my phone in the first place, but then I would have explained that he's just one of my guy friends.

                Guys get snoopy with their questions too. Every time you pass a guy on the street and say hi to them it’s like “ohh what did you hook up with him?” Are you asking that because I said hello with a smile? Uh, okay wacko. But then of course if you did hook up with them, and you’re like “uh yeah, I did. What’s your point?” they freak out and won’t talk to you for 10 minutes. WELL YA KNOW WHAT PEOPLE….DONT ASK QUESTIONS YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO! Jesus. I mean my god. You ask such stupid questions and then throw a temper tantrum over the response. My ex would ask me that so often that I finally just started saying yes to everyone to piss him off. There’s also the pesky where are you? Who are you with? What are you wearing? Are you drinking? Um okay Dad, chill out. Didn’t realize I was dating Sherlock Holmes. You guys need to quit being so nosey all the time. If someone's going to cheat on you or do something inappropriate, they obviously aren’t going to give the scoop beforehand anyways. So just stop being naggy all the time, it’s really just obnoxious.

                I feel like a lot problems stem from things like Facebook (thanks a lot Zuckerberg). People in relationships are looking at their boyfriend or girlfriends wall to see who wrote on it, what they said, if there’s something there that the other person didn’t tell them, looking at pictures. It’s creepy. And that reminds me, it’s also extremely weird when people write all over their boyfriend or girlfriends wall. “I love you!” or “today was so much fun can’t wait to see you again!” It’s like, dude, we all know you talk every five seconds anyway; you were actually probably texting when you wrote that. Wouldn’t it make a lot more sense to just tell them that over the phone? I mean, personally, it would mean a bit more to me if someone said they love me or miss me when I can hear their voice. Seeing it on the internet is just a little odd. A relationship should be between two people, it doesn’t need to be plastered all over Facebook for the rest of the world to deliberate on. It just kind of comes across that your super insecure and need to make sure that everyone knows their taken…I'm just saying, something to think about.  

                Moral of the story; boys, get over yourselves.

Single and Confident

          It makes me really sad to hear people say that they are depressed to be single. As if it means there is something wrong with them just because they aren’t in a relationship. As I said in my intro, our society has managed to paint the image that the path of life is to end up married with a family. As I do respect traditions, times have changed. Women are becoming more independent; guys are becoming bigger douche bags; and marriage is apparently a complete scam, considering it somehow doesn’t apply to everyone in the country.  When our parents were younger, marriage seemed to be something that happened quite young, and then it sort of moved to a higher age, but today I have found people tying the knot at what should be the beginning of their youth. It really is sad to me. It almost seems as if marriage has become a fad. If not for that, then it usually relates to these girls thinking “times up” and he seems like he’s the right one at this time. (Yeah yeah, I’m sure some of you will say “omg no way, he was the one!” oh was he? I didn’t know you dated everyone in the world, that’s fascinating, congratulations).

                I know too many girls today who seem to live their lives on a timeline. That’s right, a timeline. “Well I want to be a young mom, so I want to have kids when I’m 29, which means married around 27, but I want to have known my husband for at least 3 years before we get married, so that means I need to start looking now.” WHAT THE HELL DID YOU JUST SAY? People are so scared of being “alone” in their 30’s that they settle for what seems “right” in their life at that moment. The question I want answered is: what does alone mean to you people?

                Unfortunately for many women, and some men, they think being alone means they somehow didn’t amount to be good enough for someone. Personally, I take pride in being “alone.” Just try this for me: look at it from a different angle. Instead of thinking you’re alone because no one wants you; try thinking you’re on your own because no one has yet to deserve you. I know I have a lot to offer someone. And when I meet someone who I feel has proven that they can match me and deserve me; my heart is theirs. People need to stop feeling so sorry for themselves. Flip the glass over, look at things with a positive attitude. The ball is always in your court if you take the control. You are the only person who can have power over your feelings. You like a guy who isn’t giving you attention, don’t sit around and have a pity party. Tell yourself that he was a shmuck anyway and realize that there are millions of people in this world.

                Girls today give guys too much control. No one approached you at the bar, so you hit the gym; he didn’t call, you think there is something wrong with you. (Think about that, he didn’t do something so that’s turned around into there being something wrong with you? No, not gonna fly. That’s all him.) Not to mention, if he didn’t call, he’s probably not interested, or here’s a crazy thought for you, he’s actually busy….weird! So stop embarrassing yourself and just keep moving. Not everything we do should be directed towards attracting someone. A huge problem with all of this is simply that people aren’t confident enough on their own. I’ve seen way too many strugglers with self esteem issues and it’s really sad. The majority of people today are spending most of their time comparing themselves with other people.

                Go to the gym because it’s healthy and will make you feel better, not so people will date you. Get extra pretty for dinner because you know you’re beautiful, not because you need other people to see it. Work extra hard to get to the top in your career. Why? Because you deserve it and you’re the only person who can get you there. How are we supposed to expect people to want us if we wouldn’t want ourselves? Become independent, strong, driven, and successful. You’ll find that things will eventually fall into your lap. I’m not saying I’m 100% confident in myself and I think I’m perfect, however, I’m confident enough to say I don’t need a guy to make me happy. A relationship shouldn’t be about depending on the other person. It should be about each bringing something to the table and contributing aspects that the other person doesn’t have (but I’ll get to that problem later). Confidence in a woman makes her much sexier than some mopey complainer. So you’re not Adrirana Lima, who is (well, besides her). Get over it. You have something to offer this world that no one else has.

See it; Own it; Work it.

The Exes

          This is the kind of topic where everyone’s going to think the situation is circumstantial. And alright, maybe 1 out of 50 times, it might be. But really hear me out on this, I think you’ll come to find that taking my advice will be a lot easier than the path you’ve been on.

          “The Hatred of the Ex” can relate to two different spectrums; you decide you have to hate all the exes of your partner, or, you have deemed it necessary you have to dislike the new person your ex is dating. For all of you that know me well, you know I have a lot of experience of being “the hated girl” and I’m not just writing this to justify why I think that’s stupid, I’m writing because it’s a waste of energy for all of you to keep living your lives like this. Let me give you a PERFECT example of how stupid it is to hate the new person your ex is dating. I’m going to take you back to high school, many of you will know this story, but for the sake of being polite….names will be changed. I had a boyfriend in the beginning of high school; we’ll call him “Steve.” Steve was hands down the love of my life. He meant everything to me. Not only was he my first real boyfriend, but he was also the person I lost my virginity to, and the first person I ever loved (I know right? It’s weird, but I actually have loved). Steve and I dated for a little over a year, and we broke up a slightly into his senior year. It was rough, no break up is every easy, let alone your first. I was heartbroken (many like to think this is how I got my bitter soul). But little did I know, the worst had yet to come.

                Steve started dating a new girl; we’ll call her “Betty.” A girl his age, that his friends were all friends with and that was over-all well liked by a lot of people. I, being the immature high schooler I was at the time, flipped the F out. I HATED Betty. When I say I was mean, it’s an understatement. Now that I look back at it, it’s very embarrassing the way I acted. And it wasn’t just behind her back, I was mean to her face. See, the key ingredient to this whole mixture is that Betty was friends with my sister. There wasn’t really any avoiding Betty, she was always there. It was hard, trust me, people, I get it. Having to hang around the girlfriend of the person you loved. I’m not saying it’s easy, but, I can tell you that currently being on the complete other side with Betty now, it’s much easier.

                Over the years, Betty and I slowly tried to be cordial with one another. The random hellos, quick conversations, actually becoming Facebook friends (woah…).Little did I know, she would become one of my closest friends. Ya see, what most people don’t sit down and realize is the common factor between “the old girl” and “the new girl.” Did you ever stop to think, hey, we really liked and both put up with the same guy for a really long time? Well, if you do take a step back and look at it that way, you’ll come to find that you and this new girl (and the same goes for new girls hating all the exes, which by the way, that’s just weird, but I’ll get to that in a sec) probably could get along great. Luckily for me, I did realize that, and I now have a friendship that will last a lifetime. What’s sad to me is that I was hating this girl, who I did not even know, for no reason. Because she liked the same guy as me? ERR wrong. I’m sorry, but that’s a terrible excuse. And not only that, but our friendship that we have now (love you girl), could have started so long ago.

I know that it’s hard to understand that thought while you’re in the middle of being heartbroken, but people, what you need to realize is that not everyone is meant to be together.  Relationships come and go. That’s the beauty of them. You’re bored and tired of one, boom, guess what? You get to trade it in for a new one! You can’t expect everyone to be alone after you. And most of the time, the new girl is someone you don’t even know. Now, doesn’t it seem a bit silly to hate someone you don’t even know? If all you ladies out there could grow some balls for a second and admit that your just, I know I know, this is going be tough, JEALOUS of that girl, then you would look a lot less crazy. Boom, easy. Truckin' right along.

Now, on to something that I really, I mean really, just don’t understand. This one really just baffles me. Can someone please tell me how, in any way, shape, or form, it is normal to hate all the previous exes of a guy/girl you’re dating? I mean really though, you’re talking about disliking people who just happened to meet your partner before you.  What? I mean honestly people. That’s just bat shit crazy. And not only that, but it causes so many unnecessary arguments inside your relationship. Especially since you’re talking about disliking people that were in your partners life, before they even knew you existed!!

I have an ex, who like most of my exes, have remained extremely good friends with. We’ve had our ups and downs, but for the most part, we have been very close for over 5 years. Of course, since every girl in the world seems to be wack as hell, all of the girls he dated after me would try and prevent him from talking to me. That’s correct, you read that right. They would actually try and tell him that he couldn’t talk to me. Was I pursuing him and trying to get back together? No. Did we still have feelings for each other? No. We genuinely were just friends. I’m sorry, but can you say insecure? People break up for a reason. If we wanted to be together, we would be. Maybe that’s the problem with today. People need to have more faith in their relationships. If you’re so worried that your boyfriend/girlfriend is going to up and leave you for someone, then maybe you should reevaluate your situation. Just a thought.

Intro

Everyone has a different opinion on relationships. How and when they should begin; and how and if they should end. But what’s most important is everything in between. While there are a few special couples out there that don’t manage to bug everyone around them, the fact of the matter is, the majority of couples today are plain and simply annoying as shit. No one wants to be stuck next to the pair who’s still in the honeymoon stage (that’s right, it does exist). From the pet names, to the constant texting, to the PDA…people, it’s annoying. Even after that stage, a lot of people tend to leave out one key ingredient in a relationship, balance. And no you self absorbed brats, I don’t mean balance between you and your partner, I’m talking about balance between your relationship and everything else that was once your life. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not anti relationships. When one is healthy, it can be a fun and beautiful thing. It just seems as though couples today have lost sight of what it’s supposed to be about. For example, fights. I know couples that argue about EVERYTHING. Why didn’t you call me the exact second you said you were going to? Who the hell just wrote on your wall? (Facebook in a relationship…that’s a whole topic right there). DID YOU JUST LOOK AT HER ASS?!? People, how is someone supposed to know when something is actually a big deal if you get mad at everything? Here’s a real life example for you; my father never gets mad at me, so when he actually brings something up that bothers him, I know it’s serious. On the flip side, my mother (love you mom, you’re the best) gets mad much more frequently, so I don’t always understand the level of significance of her point. Pick and choose your battles people; isn’t a relationship supposed to be about love and happiness anyways?

I, being the generous person I am, have decided that I will share some thoughts about different topics relating to relationships, and my advice to you on how to deal with them. Some of you may want to call this advice my opinion, but let me tell you, my opinion is normally the truth. I may only be 22, but I like to think I have a pretty good outlook on relationships. I don’t want anyone to think I’m trying to say you should end your relationship or all relationships are terrible, I just hope you take my words into consideration on maybe, a way to better it. Everything in life can always be improved, and sometimes people get so wrapped up, they forget to take a step back and evaluate things. You may think I’m just a bitter single girl who’s jealous of everyone in a relationship…well, don’t flatter yourself, not everyone wants to be you, I’m single by choice.

Some of you may ask, how can I possibly think I’ve seen it all when I’m so young? Well, anyone who knows me at all knows that I started my path with relationships back in kindergarten. I never went through the “coodie” phase. Straight from the womb, I had a knack for the lads, I probably even gave the doctor a little baby wink. Through-out my wonderful youth, I have experienced almost every type of relationship one can endure. From love at first sight, all the way down to the terrible cheat every weekend. You name it, I’ve seen it. If I haven’t personally been involved, I’ve seen it go down. I have grown up with two parents that are hands down the best couple known to mankind, and I have single handedly experienced the worst relationship I could imagine. Beautiful, normal relationships do exist, but apparently people need some help understanding what that means. There is a difference between a relationship, and a healthy relationship. And sadly, I know way too many people in dysfunctional relationships. There is also the sad fact that people think the whole purpose in life is to eventually end up married, well, times have changed. And it doesn’t make you pathetic if your single and no one should be living their life on a time line. Take what I say with a grain of salt if you may, but I know for a fact, there are a lot of you out there that would be better off if you toned the crazy down.